Comments on: Blueblueblue http://periwinkleblue.co.uk/index.php/2007/04/15/blueblueblue/ Wed, 25 Aug 2010 06:38:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Mish http://periwinkleblue.co.uk/index.php/2007/04/15/blueblueblue/comment-page-1/#comment-7325 Mish Sun, 15 Apr 2007 20:14:50 +0000 http://www.periwinkleblue.co.uk/index.php/?p=118#comment-7325 Let's face it, being ill simply is depressing. It's normal to find it hard to stay positive when ill, even though it is important to try for all kinds of reasons. So remember that, and try not to fall into the old spiral of depressed about depression. As for e-mails, they're like postal letters, in my opinion, and it's kind of sad that the modern world has made them seem soo immediate. Unless any are marked as urgent, then no-one should complain about having to wait for a response. Especially if they know you're ill, have partners, and more to do than just obbsessively reply to online messages (ick ¬.¬) As for your relations with your partners, you're genuinely ill and they know this. They understand that you're likely to be a little snippy and less supportive than you'd like. In situations like this, you personally simply cannot be expected to take much of their weight. That's what their wider support network of friends and family is for, and one of the best things you can do is remind them that there are others they can turn to. Knowing weasel, it's easier said than done, she's very quiet about personal issues, I didn't know of her worries over work. But this is why it is important for partners to have friends other than their partner. The effects of the lack of your normal routine seem to be at the root of a lot of your worries. Routine is important and called routine for a reason - it routes in emotional stability and happiness. Ok, yes, I spent ten minutes trying to think of that and I'm actually extremely proud :P But it's true, a good healthy routine helps keep your mental state healthy. It's normal to worry about returning to your old routine, and to be honest it will not be amazing at first. But you'll soon slip back into the good stuff :) Perhaps try to introduce some aspects of routine, especially the good old routine, back into your day? Just one activity at a time, keep it up, and see were it takes you. It would probably help your self-esteem no end and make you generally feel better, too. But remember, as much as you'd like to, don't push yourself. A small addition that you can stick with is far better than trying anything grand. Life's made up of small bites, just like eating an elephant. It may look like one huge task, but really it's lots of small ones. You can do this! Let’s face it, being ill simply is depressing. It’s normal to find it hard to stay positive when ill, even though it is important to try for all kinds of reasons. So remember that, and try not to fall into the old spiral of depressed about depression.

As for e-mails, they’re like postal letters, in my opinion, and it’s kind of sad that the modern world has made them seem soo immediate. Unless any are marked as urgent, then no-one should complain about having to wait for a response. Especially if they know you’re ill, have partners, and more to do than just obbsessively reply to online messages (ick ¬.¬)

As for your relations with your partners, you’re genuinely ill and they know this. They understand that you’re likely to be a little snippy and less supportive than you’d like. In situations like this, you personally simply cannot be expected to take much of their weight. That’s what their wider support network of friends and family is for, and one of the best things you can do is remind them that there are others they can turn to. Knowing weasel, it’s easier said than done, she’s very quiet about personal issues, I didn’t know of her worries over work. But this is why it is important for partners to have friends other than their partner.

The effects of the lack of your normal routine seem to be at the root of a lot of your worries. Routine is important and called routine for a reason – it routes in emotional stability and happiness. Ok, yes, I spent ten minutes trying to think of that and I’m actually extremely proud :P But it’s true, a good healthy routine helps keep your mental state healthy.
It’s normal to worry about returning to your old routine, and to be honest it will not be amazing at first. But you’ll soon slip back into the good stuff :)

Perhaps try to introduce some aspects of routine, especially the good old routine, back into your day? Just one activity at a time, keep it up, and see were it takes you. It would probably help your self-esteem no end and make you generally feel better, too. But remember, as much as you’d like to, don’t push yourself. A small addition that you can stick with is far better than trying anything grand. Life’s made up of small bites, just like eating an elephant. It may look like one huge task, but really it’s lots of small ones.

You can do this!

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